i stated that a company just like the human body, is a cooperation of cells.

But humans are individuals with different languages, different IQ, different environments they grew up, different training, different expertise, different knowledge, different tastes, different likes and different appearance.

So it is not as easy as take human A put him together with human B and call this a company.

Because (as we all know) having two experts that do not like each other work together will produce nothing but hatered. 😀

No sallary in the world will change that.

Humans will only play their full potential if they have „fun“ at work.

If they enjoy working with the other human-cells.

And if not.

The master of the system is doing good in putting those incompatible on a different team/time schedule. (human A works only tuesday human B only fridays …)

Because even if humans are paid badly… if they have fun @ work, they will endure the hardships.

If not… they will quit soon or ask for a major boost in pay.

People that are social competent usually can work better with others that are also social competent.

I would define social competence as follows:

a human is sensitive about the subliminal communication / messages he/she is getting from the other humans in forms of looks / words (e.g. irony) / gestures…

he/she respons in an similar way to make shure he/she understood the message and does/does not like it’s content.

a social competent human can detect tensions early and try to defuse it (if he/she wants to).

a social competent human will always try to avoid arguments.

a social competent human knows how to behave respectfully.

a social competent human has a good sense of fairness.

a social competent human takes into consideration the needs of others.

the social competence is not infinite… so if a social competent human will have to work with a  human lacking this skill, he/she sooner or later will give up working with this individual because it is not „fun“ to constantly bridge the gap.

So social competence is essential to make individuals work as a team/a company/a unit.

But of course expertise, self-efficacy and experience is also important for the efficience of the work beeing done.

Social competent people are the one’s that you would also hang around in private.

No matter how good your expertise, if you are lacking the social competence you will have it hard to:

1. make friends

2. find a girlfriend

Unfortunately the cultivation of social competence as any other social-skill is largely neglected in the 21st society that circles around efficiency and money-driven-profit.

Although the team-work on a human-to-human basis is what enabled humans to conquer the world and hunt and bring down mammuts.

Now western mankind has reached a stage where individuals can afford to be true individuums and refuse to work together with e.g. family members or colleges.

Because they will not die. They might fail to earn more yes and fuck up the project yes, but they will not die.

Unless forced to work together often the slightest difference added with irrational exeggerated emotional behaviour will make individuums stop the cooperation.

Money-individual-egoism is a sickness that the modern world largely and quietly infected.

The motto is: If i earn enough i can afford to be an ashole.

But this is only as true as others are dependend on my money.

If they are not. They will probably choose to live with someone else or on their own.

Only social competent people are aware of it and might try to change this deficit.

Modern brain science discovered that the thinking about money alone is enough to get a feeling of independence and detachement.

The feeling of not needing other humans cooperation, because who has money, can buy cooperation.

So everything is reduced to this money-centric-cooperation and every day life largely circles around it.

It brings some wealth but at high „costs“.

It splits families rather than uniting them.

We definately need to find new methods that enable cooperation between humans or mankind will increase it’s sadness and psychological costs.

We also definately need to find ways of training and cultivating social competence from childhood on.

Or we might end up as a society of individuums living next but not with each other.

This is the effect that people often do not understand, why human A will not help human B even if he/she is hit by a car.

The dalailama even says that we are all linked together. Which is the exact oppositve of what money does. Enabling people to be (in extreme) uncaring individuums.

Social competence is learned by children through observation and participation. Children learn social competence from how their parents treat them, and how their parents treat others.

By Hussong, Andrea M.; Zucker, Robert A.; Wong, Maria M.; Fitzgerald, Hiram E.; Puttler, Leon I.
Developmental Psychology, Vol 41(5), Sep 2005, 747-759.
In the current study, the authors tested the hypothesis that children of alcoholic parents (COAs) show deficits in social competence that begin in early childhood and escalate through middle adolescence. Teachers, parents, and children reported on the social competence of COAs and matched controls in a community sample assessed from ages 6 to 15. Hierarchical linear growth models revealed different patterns of change in social competence across development as a function of the reporter of various indicators of competence. Moreover, female COAs showed deficits in social competence in early childhood that receded in adolescence and that varied across subtypes of parent alcoholism. Implications of these findings for understanding the development of social competence in children, and at-risk children in particular, are discussed. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)